While you were swiping

While you were swiping

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The internet, for all its naysayers and prophets of doom, has transformed the way people work and communicate. It has turned entertainment, retail and health industries from boom to bust and back again.

But its biggest and most profound effect has been on the single (sic) biggest decision that most people will ever make—choosing that someone special.

In those fast walking days of the 1990’s when people actually talked to each other, the idea of meeting a partner online seemed alien, freakish, sad, and not a little pathetic.

In today’s brave new world of hunter gathering by swiping right, all those pathetic, alien freaks are considered, sadly, normal.

Smartphones have put virtual stadiums full of meeting places in people’s pockets, where singleistas can mingle free from the constraints (and fun) of social intercourse or physical geography and safely roam without fear of failure.

It’s the ‘now now next next’ society where one finger and a photo shopped face is all you need.

Globally, at least 200m people use online dating services every month so they can’t all be wrong, can they?

The internet is the second-most-popular way to meet people of the opposite sex. Strangely and interestingly the most popular way to meet someone is still the old fashioned way of being introduced to someone AND actually talking to them!

Who knew?

Online dating is an incredibly massive social experiment, conducted on one of humanity’s most intimate and vital processes.

Its effects are only just starting to become significant.

In the real world, partners are found in among circles of friends, colleagues, local and business communities. Meeting a friend of a friend is a normal and everyday practice.

People who meet online are strangers and therefore dating online offers much greater choice.

A Pub or a club, a football game, a social get together or office might have more than a few potential partners for any one person.

Online, the world really is your oyster-there’s thousands to choose from. It’s the kid in the sweetshop syndrome. “Are all these for me?”

Interestingly, there’s trouble in paradise in the way that people chase and choose love these days !

Many Online Single daters now complain of stress when confronted with the brutal realities of the digital Meat Market, and their place within it. Negative body image worries existed before the internet, but they are magnified when ignorant strangers can issue snap judgments on attractiveness.

Online dating has been linked to depression. The same problems that afflict other digital platforms recur in Dating Disneyworld, from scams, fake accounts and even the leg over brigade.

20% of all newly created dating profiles do not belong to real people.

Dating firms suffer from their own inherent conflict of interest.

Perfect matching would leave them without paying customers.

Online dating makes the effect of income inequality and education much more pronounced.

Education levels are displayed prominently on dating profiles in a way they would never be allowed on Introduction and Matchmaking agencies.

Online dating sites purely rely on numbers to exist and make money. The more numbers on a site means the chances of meeting someone online is much greater. The greater the number means the greater need to rely on their prime modus operandi. ALGORITHMS!

Maybe in years to come parents will tell their children (without blushing)that they were matched through an algorithm by the OK Cupid there’s plenty of fish in the elite match.com .

Romance/Dating/Shifting/(whatever it used to be called before Tinder came along) used to be a social activity which took place in bars, clubs, offices and social gatherings and even at busstops!

Sadly these days, enormous numbers of people rely on a few companies to meet their soul mate. That gives a small number of programmers, tweaking the algorithms that determine who sees whom across the virtual stadium full of potential soul mates, incredible power to engineer dating and mating outcomes…

For many, that prospect of an algorithmic arranged meeting should cause real concern! One wrong algorithm ones could ruin a lot of lives. Feelings, Emotions, Empathy and Tenderness don’t cut ice with the logic of an ALGORITHM!

Sure, Online dating might be quick and easily efficient and less time consuming than actually meeting a genuine Matchmaker and Introductions expert face to face who cares about the outcome of arranging an introduction but really, who would you like by your side…an app or a real person?

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