We’re not in Kansas anymore.

We’re not in Kansas anymore.

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When you’re  ”Single all the way”  there’s no lonelier place than a nite club after midnight on New Year’s Day. You’ve done the 10, 9, and 8 count down and cometh the hour, cometh the hugs and kisses. “Should auld acquaintance be forgot…”

 And when Abba’s (1977)“Take a chance on me  ” erupts

 you’re all “alone again, naturally”(Gilbert O Sullivan (1971)

You can’t always get what you want” Rolling Stones (1969)

Ok…It’s a more mature niteklub!

New Year.  New Ewe…no..Just me January!

And then there’s those New Year’s revolutions…

For selfie singles, the focus, at least in regards to resolutions, may be on how to find that someone special in 2018.

Being single just means you haven’t found the right person yet. That’s all!

Disney and Playboy… its Disney’s fault that girls want the perfect guy and its Playboy’s fault that guys want the perfect girl!

So here you are in the first week of January 2018. Prosecco and exotic Gin n plaTonics are off the reservation for a while, there’s loads of newbie rotund members in the gym for the next 2 weeks  and you’re looking good, fit and full of  fun n frolic………….

and single!

In today’s social insanity media driven mad world of Tinder- SnapChats- Swipe me-Wipe me- Instagram’s, Internet dating and hook ups sites the expectation is for ‘instant gratification love by wifi, of course I love you-what’s yer name again, call you soon.

 And that’s fine when you’re 20 but we’re not in Kansas anymore.

And you’re not 20 anymore either because if you were you  wouldn’t be strutting your stuff at

 Howl at the Moon or Bad Bobs.

So let’s back up the truck a little.

If you really want to meet that someone special you’ve got to ask ourselves some hard selfie questions.

What steps am I taking to meet someone?  Am I waiting to be swept off my feet or am I actively trying to meet my damsel in shining armour/knight in distress/that dress?

Are you doing the same things that you’ve always done? If you say “She’s/He’s not my type” then your type isn’t working for you..Simples.. Are you too limited in your search for the one? Too many “must tick boxes”? Maybe that’s why you’re still single?

Old Albert had a point when he said that insanity was “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”

So, what’s a girl or a guy to do?

Dry yer eyes mate. The Streets (2004)

Do something that will challenge you. Take up new hobbies that take you out of your comfort zone. This will allow you to discover things you didn’t know about yourself.

Let’s face it. Abseiling isn’t for everyone but who knew there’s so much fun in Ceile dancing. Have you ever struck up a conversation with someone over the frozen veg in a Supermarket? Love Sprouts? (I’ll get me coat).

Don’t wait for the “one”! We’ve all heard those clichés…“what’s for you won’t pass you by” or “If it’s meant to be it will be” It’s amusing how we’ve been told that ‘the one’ will come when you’re least expecting him/her. It’s like ‘the one’ is some kind of white suited (white coated maybe) Officer and a Gentleman that will suddenly appear and sweep you off your feet. Forget that “you’ll meet someone when you’re not looking, It will happen when it happens” twaddle..Get a grip. Reality bites.

Be more open minded. Open your mind (and heart) to new possibilities. Don’t limit yourself to certain social groupings. Make new friends. Remember, Googlebox or Gogglebox isn’t  a belief system nor is Facebook a life experience. Get off your Ottoman, lose the mobile, get out and smell the coffee.

But be realistic in your expectations. George Clooney is already taken! Think Marty Morrissey as a fireman!  Be more adventurous …If you fancy someone go over and introduce yourself to them. What’s the best that could happen?

Think about it. There are sooo many very genuine people out there who are interested in looking for a long term relationship…just like you!

So how do you find them?

Dating sites and apps can be naughty or nice. Online dating sites and apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish are great fun and easy to join but let the buyer beware…

Are the profiles genuine? Is the person genuine?  How do you know if he’s married or she’s single?

 If you can view her profile everyone else can see yours. What privacy have you got? What about Scammers, Ghosting, Catfishing and Breadcrumbs (are they a law practice?)

Maybe the tag  should be “The odds are good but the goods are odd”…

And remember…. there’s sharks in the water.

Matchmaking and Introduction agencies remove all the uncertainties associated with online dating sites and their fees are well worth it for the confidentiality, discretion and the fact that they meet everyone face to face so you know they are genuine.(well ,One2One Introductions do anyway!

If you want it to happen then you need to invest time and effort to make it so.

Consider it an investment in yourself….. and your happiness!!

ps….Eat More Chocolate!

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