Rule 1. There are no rules.
For a single girl or guy there’s no lonelier place than a nite club or a party after midnight on New Year’s Day. You’ve done the 10, 9, and 8 countdown and cometh the hour, cometh the hugs and kisses. “Should auld acquaintance be forgot…”
Just then Queen’s “Find me somebody to love” erupts and you’re all alone, again, naturally!
New Year. Just me January!
And then there’s those New Year’s resolutions.
For singletons, the focus, at least in regards to resolutions, may be on how to find that someone in 2017.
Rule 2. Being single just means you haven’t found the right person yet. That’s all!
Remember, its Disney’s fault that girls want the perfect guy and its Playboy’s fault that guys want the perfect girl!
So here you are in the first week of January 2017..Chocolates and Tequila shots are off the menu for a while, there’s loads of new members in the gym for the next 2 weeks at least and you’re good looking, fun………….and single.
How can that be? Today’s social media driven world of Tinder swipe me’s, Instagram’s , Internet dating and hook ups sites the expectation is for instant gratification and I want it all and I want it now.
And that’s fine and fun when you’re 20.
But you’re not 20 anymore, are you?
So let’s back up the truck a little…………
If we really want to meet that someone special we’ve got to ask ourselves some hard questions.
What steps am I taking to meet someone?
Am I waiting to be swept off my feet or am I actively trying to meet my knight in shining armour/damsel in distress??
Are you doing the same things that you’ve always done? If you say “She’s/He’s not my type” then your type isn’t working for you. Are you too limited in your search for the one? Too many “must tick boxes”? Maybe that’s why you’re still single?
Old Albert had a point when he said that insanity was “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”
So, what do I do?
Do things that will challenge you. Develop new hobbies that take you out of your comfort zone. This will allow you to discover things you didn’t know about yourself, and meet new people. Let’s face it. Rock climbing isn’t for everyone but who knew there’s so much fun in Ceile dancing. Have you ever struck up a conversation with someone in a Supermarket? They fell in love over the
Don’t wait for the “one”! We’ve all heard those clichés…“what’s for you won’t pass you by” If it’s meant to be it will be” It’s amusing how we’ve been told that ‘the one’ will come when you’re least expecting him/her. It’s like ‘the one’ is some kind of Officer and a Gentleman that will suddenly appear and sweep you off your feet. Get a grip. Reality bites.
Be more open minded. Open your mind (and heart) to new possibilities. Don’t limit yourself to certain social groupings. Make new friends. Remember Television isn’t a hobby or Facebook a religion. Get off the couch, leave the mobile phone and get out and about.
Be realistic in your expectations. George Clooney is already taken! Angelina may be single again but dream on.
There are however, lots of very genuine people out there who are interested in looking for a long term relationship…just like you!
So how do you find them?
Dating sites and apps can be naughty or nice. On line dating sites and apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish are great fun and easy to join but let the buyer beware…
Are the Photos genuine? Is the person genuine? Are their profiles fake? How do you know if he’s married or she’s single? If the enemy’s in range then so are you! If you can view his profile everyone else can see yours. What privacy have you got? How many people are reading my emails? The truth is you don’t know, so the motto should be “The odds are good but the goods are odd”…
It’s fun but it’s a jungle out there!
Matchmaking and Introduction agencies remove all the uncertainties associated with online dating sites and their fees are well worth it for the confidentiality, discretion and the fact that they meet everyone face to face so you know they are genuine.
Make 2017 the year to invest in you!!
Forget the “you’ll meet someone when you’re not looking,” because we’ve heard it all before. If it happens, then it happens. If it doesn’t, then it doesn’t.
However if you want it to happen then you may need to invest time and effort to make it so.
Consider it an investment in yourself and your happiness!!
Be more adventurous …If you fancy someone go over and introduce yourself to them. What’s the best that could happen?
Rule 3…Eat More Chocolate!
Finders of Keepers