While you were swiping

2 years ago 0 493

The internet, for all its naysayers and prophets of doom, has transformed the way people work and communicate. It has turned entertainment, retail and health industries from boom to bust and back again. But its biggest and most profound effect has been on the single (sic) biggest decision that most people will ever make—choosing that someone special. In those fast walking days of the 1990’s when people actually talked to each other, the idea of meeting a partner online seemed alien, freakish, sad, and not a little pathetic. In today’s brave new world of hunter gathering by swiping right, all those pathetic, alien freaks are considered, sadly, normal. Smartphones have put virtual stadiums full of meeting places in people’s pockets, where singleistas can mingle free from the constraints (and fun) of social intercourse or physical geography and safely roam without fear of failure. It’s the ‘now now next next’ society where

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Really ugly fat bloke looking to meet super model with a sense of humour

2 years ago 0 577

Online dating and dating apps are designed to give zillions of singles the chance to find dates on their own terms. It’s instant gratification for the “I want it and I want it now “generation. The swipe attitude sums up today’s busy, Iphone attached at the lip generation singles who want to find someone, anyone, a partner, a lover, a soul mate so long as it’s this instant! However, despite the phenomenon of online dating which is used by almost 60% of singles, it’s actually, quite bizarrely, helping and encouraging the growth of one sector: Matchmakers! Why? My own view(well, I am a Matchmaker) is that because a lot of singletons are becoming totally disillusioned by computer algorithms –It’s a real case of “from Algorhythms to zero confidence in 3 dates” for some and it replaces human judgment, with many suffering from dating overload. It’s the kid in a sweetshop

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An apology

3 years ago 0 662

An apology to folk who may think One2One Introductions is just another Internet Dating site. Sorry But We’re Different. Because We’re poles apart from Internet Dating. We’re not an internet dating site! We meet you face to face At a time that suits you At a place that’s near you We’re different Because We actually care about getting you introductions based on quality not quantity. We introduce you to genuine, like for like introductions that match your match. Introductions that you actually may have something in common with…who knew? We’re different because We’re friendly, professional, discreet and TOTALLY confidential. We create a personal comprehensive, private profile that includes a PHOTO!! We’re different because We get results, couples meet and they have relationships. We’re small. We don’t have hundreds of people on our books (we really wouldn’t be doing a good job if we had!) We’re different because you’re different! What’s

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If one synchronised swimmer drowns do the other have to follow?

3 years ago 0 625

What we do on or before dates that maybe we really shouldn’t! Let’s face it.. whether you’re a newbie to all this or have even had a date or two in the not too distant past, going on a date can be a total head wrecker! A date SHOULD be fun, enjoyable and perhaps have that ‘let’s do this again feel about it and who knows where it will lead to..but what about the what if’s and maybe’s and if only’s so the following should be taken with a strong coffee and a pinch of salt. To Google or not to Google? Everybody Googles everybody! And while it’s fine to get some little background about him or her before a date sometimes a little knowledge is a VERY dangerous thing. I had a bizarre situation where I arranged a date with …let’s call them Frank(Abernathy for confidential reasons!) and Mary.

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Nostalgia ain’t what it used to be!

3 years ago 0 620

Why is it so hard to meet someone these days? Finding someone in the Seventies, Eighties and Nineties just wasn’t a problem. You could meet someone in the supermarket because it was a relaxed place to bump into and maybe flirt (now there’s a lost art!) AND without fear of the PC Police over the freshly baked bread cheekily utter “Don’t squeeze me til I’m yours” Gallantry ruled and real men opened doors and ladies actually replied with a Thank you! If it rained (which was a constant) you’d offer to share your umbrella. Bus stops were where the action was and love stories began (or was that Zhivagos?) You could talk without loudspeakers in pubs to other people without googling them! In those fast moving days we enjoyed a mad thing called… reality! You went to discos and niteclubs to meet someone. You asked a girl out by walking

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Get busy Dating..

3 years ago 0 686

Busy..adjective :having a great deal to do: toiling at: labouring away:  wrapped up in: occupied, engaged in.. Everyone is snowed under( and stressed) these days..work work work, home,  drama lessons for the cat, doggy obedience school, oh god I forgot about the kids, Baltazar needs his  Ulysses translated into Hebrew before lunch, then there’s origami, gym, Pilates with Gerry, shopping,  walking the goldfish, Facebooking, Tindering, Instagraming, Tweeting, thinking, contemplating life.. Whoever invented the 24 hour day certainly wasn’t born on social media that’s for sure Sherlock. ..we’re all busy….  So busy in fact, that the very idea of taking time out to look for a significant other just doesn’t bear twerking about.  And anyway, they’d have to get up earlier than Leo Vadakar to hang out with me. I’m just too busy being busy these days! I know…I’ll join an online dating site. The Ikea of email order brides and

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Alternative facts or fake news? What online dating sites don’t want us to know.

3 years ago 0 1078

Its late January 2017…Are you still sifting through the “alternative facts” (or as we in Ireland like to call it, lies) of online dating, hoping to find Mr or Ms Perfect-That Special One? And you know online dating works sometimes! You may even know a friend or two who found their lid fitted the other’s saucepan. But there’s a secret the online dating sites don’t want you to know. You see, the online dating sites work much like the lottery. They pull in thousands of people with the hope of winning money. Along the way, they let a few people win. Those winners invariably tell all their friends, and those friends go play the lottery thinking and hoping they’ll win too. What the lottery doesn’t want you to know is that the odds of winning are stacked against you. With online dating, the odds are stacked against you… almost as

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Of Playbuoys, sharks and wasted seamen.

3 years ago 0 802

Day One in the “Just haven’t met you yet/ lookin for lurve” house.. This online dating lark is easy, casual and you don’t have to dress for it, sloppy Joes and PJs rule, sans make up..even my hair’s a mess but sure who knows? So..I decided to join Matchmewithplentyoffish.com (I loved their logo “Cast yer net in the sea of love” I joined (only euro35 a month), put my profile up (My hook was “Let’s have a whale of a time”) and Tadah.. “I’ve got 65 messages, 123 winks and 4 marriage proposals (“And I haven’t even put my photo up yet..) “Are all these for me?” It’s the kid in the sweetshop syndrome. I think I’ve fallen in love 3 times tonite already. Wait till I really get into this.. Which photo? Long or short hair? Blonde, Brunette..that one from 2000 looks great-all my mates said so. ”My milkshake

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Are Irish men of a certain age lazy, boring and hung up on box ticking when it comes to Dating in the real world?

4 years ago 2 950

  Firstly I need to say this has been written from my experiences with my Matchmaking and Introductions agency, One2One Introductions. Secondly, I’m the original born again poacher turned gamekeeper. Now read on.. I blame Irish Mammies for all this. From the time we were rug rats we’ve been cossetted, put on a pedestal and told that there’s “no one good enough for my son” and so we’ve grown up believing the myth. By the time we’re finished school and college and have entered the big bad world of commerce and earning mullah we’ve become so used to our elevated status in the natural pecking order of life that we tend to look at women as being “ONLY women” and “Sure what would THEY know anyway?. Aren’t we the greatest thing since sliced bread”? We expect too much from dating because we A…think there’s more of them than us when

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Pick me Pick me!

4 years ago 0 830

OK we’re VERY biased about this, being the proud owners of One2One Introductions, so obviously we want you to choose us! Simples. And after all…….. It is our blog! But because we value  honesty  and because we believe you need to know as much of the truth about what you’re going to get into if you join a dating agency, the following may have some bearing on your filtering of choice. There’s  only two types of dating services these dates…(and we take it you’ve tried the pub/ club scene, speed dating, slow dancing  and even the dreaded dinner party set up scene) One is internet or online dating and the other is offline dating (that’s us Matchmakers and Introduction agencies ) We would never disrespect  internet dating. It  works very well for lots of people. You get a huge number of dates… if you need a huge number of dates. ..You meet ALL types

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