For a single girl or guy there’s no lonelier place than a nite club after midnight on New Year’s Day. You’ve done the 10, 9, and 8 countdown and cometh the hour, cometh the hugs and kisses.
Suddenly Queen’s “Find me somebody to love” bellows and you’re all alone, again!
“I’m never doing this again! It was the same last year. I’m getting too old for this. Why am I here?”
New Year. New Me! When was the last time you said that? Last year probably.
While many will resort to New Year’s resolutions involving exercise or good intentions, for singletons, their focus, at least in regards to resolutions, may be on how to find that someone in 2016.
Being single just means you haven’t found the right person yet. That’s all!
Remember, its Disney’s fault that girls want the perfect guy and its Playboy’s fault that guys want the perfect girl!
So here you are in the first weeks of January 2016..The job is fine, chocolates are off the menu, there’s loads of new members in the gym and…….you’re single and looking for love.
However, in Ireland today it’s actually (strange as you may think) quite difficult to find love!
In today’s social media driven world of Tinder swipe me’s, Instagram’s , Internet dating and hook ups sites the expectation is for instant gratification and I want it all and I want it now.
If we really want to meet that someone special we’ve got to ask ourselves some hard questions. What steps am I taking to meet someone? Am I waiting to be swept off my feet or am I actively trying to meet my knight in shining armour/damsel in distress??
Old Albert had a point when he said that insanity was “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”
So, what do I do?
Do things that will challenge you. Develop new hobbies that take you out of your comfort zone. This will allow you to discover things you didn’t know about yourself, and meet new people. Let’s face it. Rock climbing isn’t for everyone but who knew there’s so much fun in Ceile dancing.
Don’t wait for the “one”! We’ve all heard those clichés…“what’s for you won’t pass you by” If it’s meant to be it’s meant to be” It’s amusing how we’ve been told that ‘the one’ will come when you’re least expecting him/her. It’s like ‘the one’ is some kind of Officer and a Gentleman that will suddenly appear and sweep you off your feet. The reality is that doesn’t happen too often in the real world.
Be more open minded Open your mind (and heart) to new possibilities. Don’t limit yourself to certain social groupings. Make new friends. Remember Television isn’t a hobby. Get off the couch and get out and about.
Be realistic in your expectations. George Clooney is already taken! But there are however, genuine people out there who are interested in looking for a long term relationship.
So how do you find them?
Dating sites and apps…. Good or bad? On line dating sites and apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish are great fun and easy to join but you should be aware of the risks involved.
Are the Photos genuine? Are their profiles fake? How do you know if he’s married or she’s single? If I can view his profile everyone else can see mine. What privacy have I? How many people are reading my emails? The truth is you don’t know, so the motto should be “remember it’s a jungle out there…and handle with care” Matchmaking and Introduction agencies remove all the uncertainties associated with online dating sites and their fees are well worth it for the privacy and peace of mind.
Make 2016 the year to invest in yourself.
Forget the “you’ll meet someone when you’re not looking,” because we’ve heard it all before. If it happens, then it happens. If it doesn’t, then it doesn’t. However if you want it to happen then you may need to invest time and effort to make it so. Consider it an investment in yourself and your happiness!!
Be more adventurous …If you fancy someone go over and introduce yourself to them, what’s the best that could happen?
And Eat More Chocolate!