From algorithms to zero confidence in 3 dates!

From algorithms to zero confidence in 3 dates!

4 years ago 0 759

Online dating and dating apps are designed to give thousands of singles the chance to find dates on their own terms. It’s instant gratification for the “I want it and I want it now “generation. The swipe left and right attitude sums up today’s busy, time-strapped singles who want to find anyone, a partner, lover, soulmate in a hurry.

However, despite the phenomenal growth  of online dating which is used by almost 40% of singles, it’s actually helping and encouraging the growth of another sector:


Why? My personal view is that because a lot of singles(especially girls) are becoming totally disillusioned by computer algorithms –It’s a real case of “from algorithms to zero confidence in 3 dates.” It also replaces human judgment, with many suffering from dating overload.While there may be plenty of fish in the sea it is a jungle out there! It’s the kid in a sweet shop syndrome..”You have 135 messages” Are all these for me? So many men –so little time!”

As a Matchmaker and Introductions specialist, I think that because of this, singles who are genuinely looking to meet someone now want someone like a really good friend to help them navigate the vast, and at times shark infested, dating waters…

et voila… One2One Introductions

A Matchmaker as a friend! Who knew?

Thankfully, the days of box-ticking partners’ credentials (must have a pensionable job, love cats and cook just like the Mammy) are disappearing rapidly. People now look at compatibility. What matters most is the fact that the people fundamentally like each other. How people feel emotionally about each other is the order of the day. So busy professionals  want to call upon the personalized, discrete, old-fashioned help that a matchmaker can give them. Algorithms and technology just can’t do that.

For my clients, that means a dating solution that gives them human interaction with real, face to face meetings, in order that the matchmaker can learn about them and their preferences and values. They also want a matchmaker who meets with each of the potential matches in order to fully vet them and vouch that they are who they say they are, before arranging a date. It essentially means a matchmaker doing the first date work for them, giving the client 100% control over the choice of people they like most and want to date.

Matchmaking has so moved on from its reputation for being old fashioned  “Wanted .Irish Woman-Able to cook, clean and foot turf. Must have land and tractor. Please send picture of tractor”, into one that’s personal, confidential, friendly, fun and warm. You have a friend in your matchmaker to look after you, to care about you and to watch over your love life. That may seem like unadventurous country lane  compared with the hyper fast highway that is  modern internet dating, but sometimes, a stroll down one of these is just what you need in today’s world.